We were chatting this week about what to do when you feel like you're in a pickle. You know what we are talking about. When you have a decision to make and it isn't clear cut what the "right" answer is/what you should do.
Sometimes this is because one path is risky and the other is more safe. Sometimes this is because you are worried about approval or disapproval from others. Sometimes it is because both options are good and potentially rewarding. Sometimes it is because you think you might fail. Sometimes it is because one is new and one is old hat.
Either way, part of growing up...and part of living a rewarding life...is making decisions about the direction your life will go. Sometimes doors open themselves and sometimes you have to push them open, but either way some thought goes into walking through that door.
When you have an opportunity, an itch for a change, an open door...How do you go about deciding your next move?
We've been in the position before with relationships, jobs, moving, schools, majors, adopting pets, trips, etc. and I think the most important thing we've learned is that no one knows your life better than YOU DO.
I think at the end of the day, the reason we ask for "help" and "guidance" when making decisions is because we want to know if the people around us agree with the decision we've already made in our own hearts and minds. It's not necessarily a waste of time to ask friends and family (or pastors and teachers) for advice, but remember that the decisions you make most affect you and your personal family (spouse and kids). Those are the people with whom you should decide and confide. Too many opinions can make complex decisions even more complicated.
I've found that I've been talked out of or into things by others that I knew deep down I really wanted to do or really didn't want to do (respectively) because I didn't want to "abuse" other's advice or let them down after I asked for their opinion.
Everyone is different, so do what you've found to be most helpful in your own life. BUT if you're anything like me...make the decision and then ask for SUPPORT as you move forward with it.
I'd love to know your thoughts on this topic. Hit respond and let us know how you go about the tough decisions in life.
XOXO,
Marc & Barb
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